Bullying: Some reflections

No Man Is an Island

No man is an island,
Entire of itself.
Each is a piece of the continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thine own
Or of thine friend’s were.
Each man’s death diminishes me,
For I am involved in mankind.
Therefore, send not to know
For whom the bell tolls,
It tolls for thee.

John Donne

 Making the bus monitor cry – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l93wAqnPQwk

Yeah, that happened around here. I live in beautiful Rochester, NY and Greece is a northeastern suburb. Many tend to believe that suburban life is better than living in a city – any city. Well, no place is perfect – obviously. People in Greece have always prided themselves on their community, safety and schools. Sadly, in recent years they have learned the truth of Proverbs 16:18, “Pride goes before destruction and a haughty spirit before a fall” for they have experienced shocking and embarrassing things – scandals with school superintendents, police officers, the Chief of Police and even the Chief’s son, and now this, and they are feeling awfully bad about it. For those who have been following the story, one man’s act of kindness has allowed people to use acts of generosity to show how they feel about this outrage, and Karen Klein has become a lightning rod for expanding the discussion of bullying to the (current) tune of $665,122. http://www.indiegogo.com/loveforkarenhklein?c=activity BTW, she is not going back to work.

Ironically, for years I’ve heard parents with kids in public school say we should have our kids there, too, to “learn how to face the toughness of life,” to “learn how to handle bullies.” Seriously? Would they choose to work in a similarly hostile environment or say “Forget this, I’m getting a different job!” Adults have that option, but yet we would put children into a “Lord of the Flies” world where not only are they powerless but their own families make light of what they tell them/tell them to “deal with it,” and then wonder why they aren’t doing well in school, don’t want to go, get “ADHD,” get depressed, do drugs, get scarred for life, drop out or kill themselves. Where’s that “trusted adult” when you need them? Think back to your own school experiences, folks. Life is tough, but should we throw children into the fire? Thank you, no. We don’t support hazing, either.

We homeschool for many reasons, and this is one. Our kids knew and played happily with all the neighbor kids since they could walk, but about 6th grade their public school playmates became vicious: starting fights with each other; mocking ours for being virgins or not fighting; trying to grope our daughter; using bigoted, racial slurs against my kids so often that I had to speak words we despise in order to tell them what they meant;* gossiping and making up lies about them… (What were they being taught in the schools?) What? Did you think homeschoolers lived in a bubble? Surprise! I had previously warned them that over time their friends would change and grow away from them and not be the same, but this was not what we expected, and I had to comfort and sadly remind them. Now, those young people are going to jail or dying in street violence and people ask “Why?” Do they imagine that marches and candlelight vigils will change the roots?

So, I stand (sadly) vindicated – about bullying in schools and how public schools often change us in ways we don’t want. Learn from this. Please. Sooner than later. You only get one chance to raise your kids.

In case you want to know what I think, I believe the children should go, with their parents, and stand before Karen and apologize in person and then be required to perform acts of kindness (feelings follow actions, not the other way around), like mowing her lawn, shoveling her snow, washing her windows, giving her flowers (maybe even having a later conversation with Ray Comfort). This is much kinder than the sentiment in my neighborhood – “They should be given the belt!”

*BTW, we are “white.”


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8 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Garden Walk Garden Talk
    Jun 28, 2012 @ 20:21:19

    It is a scary world for kids now a days. Much violence and much belittling. Some comes from the adults too, not just kids on kids. We soon forget the teachings that higher purpose.

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  2. Trisha
    Jun 28, 2012 @ 23:15:51

    We have had both experiences and if I could do it all again I would not have put my sons in public school at all. It was the worst experience we have ever been through. The schools are not there to protect your kids, as everyone thinks they are. They are their to cover their butts and be politically and socially acceptable…
    This bullying issue is very close to my heart and this poor lady certainly was tortured by these kids. I’m certain this was not a one time event either…

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  3. caseykurlander
    Jun 29, 2012 @ 10:12:15

    I felt awful after watching that video, but I am glad that Karen Klein is getting somewhat of a happy ending. I think she deserves it and I’m glad that she is donating some of that money to charity and good causes. I wrote an article yesterday about her story and the power of the Internet and social media. Here’s the link if you’d like to check it out:

    http://caseykurlander.wordpress.com/

    Thanks!
    Casey

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  4. justhappeneduponthis
    Aug 19, 2012 @ 08:54:40

    Be encouraged in your home-schooling efforts. Hilary and I did the same for a total of 12 years with our 2 kids. Friends commented on the risk of social mal-adjustment. This was far out-weighed by the tremendous boost to literacy, study habits and Gospel exercise in the program. Today our daughter is a Human Resources Consultant and our son a commercial pilot going into the Far North.Truly they are God’s plants, not ours. He does good work. He is key to good education. (Isaiah 54:13)…Doug

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    • Lloyd's of Rochester
      Aug 19, 2012 @ 13:50:54

      It is funny how often people comment with pleasant surprise at how well-educated, well-adjusted and “social” our kids are. Happily, as it becomes more common, homeschooling is less misunderstood than it was (“So do you get out much?”), although unschoolers still struggle with the perception that they live in PJs and do whatever, whenever. If I didn’t think it would create a new misconception I would create a bumper sticker that says “Actually, we “carschool.”

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